It’s Not Your Fault

It’s Not Your Fault

For wives/partners who have recently discovered the sexual brokenness of the man they love, there is a wave of emotion that can create confusion and ultimately trauma.  For many, there is an immediate response of “is this my fault?”  Self-doubt leads women to falsely believe they are not attractive enough, loving enough, sexual enough, or that there is some personal flaw that forced their partner to choose pornography or other forms of sexual behavior instead of desiring to be with them.  Sometimes the man will place the blame on the woman, suggesting that if she would just change, the problem/behavior would go away. This form of coercion is an extension of gaslighting, a term that refers to a person who uses emotional and psychological manipulation to make their partner believe they are wrong.

This session will break through these destructive, false beliefs and present a factual perspective on sexual brokenness, pornography addiction and sexual sin, and will help women understand that their husband’s/partner’s behaviors began at an early age and are carried in to the marriage as a hidden secret filled with denial, minimization and shame.